If a person is not happy to see other persons happiness or success then it’s called as J factor or jealousy. Why this jealousy occurs inside us? What makes us jealous? And how can we get rid of it?
Now a days people are more happy to see a person in problems. And are more depressed when they see a person being more successful or prosperous than them.
I think people who are emotionally weak suffer from this disease. Small things can make such people upset. They feel insufficient within themselves. So, how can we help them or ourself if we are suffering with the same problem.
Whatever is happening around us and with us, it’s all because of our own karmas. If someone is enjoying good time then it’s because of the good deeds they have done, and vice versa. So, never regret of what’s happening to yourself as it’s all your own accountability. Our balance sheet should be maintained properly by balancing our inputs and outputs.
If we understand this simple thing, that whatever good is happening with people is because of their own deeds then we will never be jealous of them, as they are reaping the fruits of their own tree.
Never doubt on yourself and your abilities. Be confident of yourself and never be afraid of what people will say. If we are confident of what we are doing is correct, and is for good of ourself and people around us, then there will be no fear or hesitation. Therefore, Conquer your fears and see the beautiful part life.
Jealousy will kill you from inside and weaken you day by day. It creates anger which is another symptom of a weak and fearful mind. As soon as we conquer this enemy of ours we take one more golden step towards the gate of happiness.
So, to win the battle of jealousy we need to first calm down and discover our strengths rather than the weaknesses.
We all try to make relations with people around us. Relations with our family members and with all those people we want to be. We need a whole lot of efforts to do this. Taking care of them, listen to there views and opinions, following instructions of each other and love them the way they are.
If we maintain the same kind of relationship with the universe then it can cause wonders in our life. It’s a kind of virtual relationship which can only be felt from within. It cannot be expressed but can only be realised consciously. This can be done through yoga and meditation. If we do yoga and meditation early morning then it has its own benefits.
We can see the change in ourself, once we start doing it. We feel like doing everyday at the same time as if someone is waiting for us to connect with. Yes there is this power to which we can connect with. It’s a kind of relation which once formed can never be broken as there is no expectations here. Just keep absorbing energy from the universe and stay blissful.
Universe is a place from where we have come and where we have to go back. Respect this pillar of life or you can be in trouble. People who maintain a strong relationship with it are the happiest people on earth.
Doing meditation can help in healing your self and stay connected to all living things.
There are two things in our life which we should give utmost importance to. First is god, and then is hope. Hope is the pillar on which the progress of our life depends. It should never die. No matter how many times a person fails or falls down in life but he or she should never leave hope. It gives positivism and motivation. Whereas, if we leave hope then we fail in our life which leads to stress and depression. Therefore, make hope your best friend and you will never fail in life.
Hope is a power that can create wonders. After god it is the best power to believe in.
Now a days people don’t have faith in themselves. They are ready to go to temples, praying to god and worshiping him. But don’t have faith in self. We need to have faith in both, but first in self and then in god, then only things will work.
Have you ever noticed an ant going in a particular direction? No matter how many times we try to change its direction, it will never give up. And will follow the way it has decided. If an ant can be so strong and have such clarity, why not humans.
Therefore, we should be clear in our thoughts and hope for the best. If we have clarity then we will have faith in ourself and will never lose hope.
Can we be happy with our own self. No, not really. Our happiness is based on lots of things around us. We always look for things or objects to experience joy. This kind of happiness is objective. Why is our happiness objective? We wait for things like gifts, amazon orders, new clothes, Jewellery, money, perfect wedding, beautiful house, great job,etc to be happy.
We have got addicted to such materialistic things for our joy, because it was a kind of happiness achieved in the past by our ancestors. The caveman use to get happy by hunting or finding food or getting things. But this kind of effect is always short term.
So, it’s a kind of dependency on things or people, and as soon as these things are gone, we start experiencing misery instead of joy.
Other kind of happiness is subjective which is not dependent on any kind object or people.. For example, when we help somebody without selfish motive and experience satisfaction or joy. Hence, to love or help someone without selfishness gives us real happiness. For this we need to experience oneness with everyone. If we realise that we are this universe our self ,and people around us, then such feeling of oneness will give us ultimate joy.
Be like a mother with everyone. How a mother sacrifices her food and give it to her hungry children. This giving of food doesn’t make her feel bad, but it makes her feel more satisfied and full of joy.
A person who has a high level of satisfaction with life is considered as happy. This is possible when we focus on the real meaning of our life and follow the path of self realisation. We are the pilots of our future happiness. So we need to take necessary steps for it.
So, how can we experience happiness?
* by bravely confronting the hardships of life.
* Being optimist.
* Having control on self.
* Developing personal strengths.
* Recognising your own value.
* And very important, choose an activity that feels like time stops when you are doing it, and do it frequently.
Therefore, free yourself from dependency on things and people, and create joy within by being happy with your own self. Someone has well said.. “ I am not what happened to me, but I am what I choose to become”.
We all are shy to speak about things happening in our lives which shouldn’t have happened or were not correct. Because of which we always have regrets in our minds. All such thoughts stay with us all our life time and because of this we are not able to live our lives comfortably. This affects a lot on our happiness index. Instead of going up, it stops at a point and we keep on thinking why we are not happy instead of all good things present around us. Like, people have money, fame, family, but are not that much happy as they should be.
Speaking for self needs immense courage. We need to be bold and never deny truth. As truth will anyways come out one day, if not straight may be indirectly punishing the concerned person for their karmas. Nobody can protect them at that time. So, if we learn this habit of speaking truth for self and for others too, it will bring a great change first in our self, then in our society and gradually in the world.
If we want to inculcate the virtue of truth in our children, then we need to set an example ourselves. This will only happen if we follow the right path. In todays world dishonesty has become the order. We all wear a mask and meet and greet each other with fake smiles. We gossip about our near and dear ones behind their back. Praising those people from whom we want favours, have become our habit.
So, instead of living a happy life after earning money and getting fame, we are living an artificial life losing the purity of our soul. Therefore, don’t hesitate in speaking the truth, as truth is the only thing which will give you real happiness.
Our lives should be full of fragrance. Not through the fragrance of a perfume. But such a fragrance that reaches not only to people but even to god. Not outer fragrance, but fragrance of our karmas and thoughts. It can be improved by increasing our inner qualities.
We can understand this with the help of an example. Life of a businessman is full of difficulties, so patience is the most important thing he need to develop. He can never get angry on his customers. Have to talk politely with them no matter how many questions they ask and how many times they ask. This fragrance of his patient behaviour pleases the customers whom the businessman considers as a king or god. That s why businessman always writes in his business places quotes like, customer is the king…as customer is the one who pays him for his hard work.
If we do some good deeds, but with selfish motives, then it will not carry any fragrance. Like those in politics are helping people who are in need, but for their own selfish motives. That’s the reason we cannot see goodness in there acts. Therefore, if we are donating something to get fame, or helping someone to get help in return, then it’s better we don’t do any good karma for such selfish motives.
How to make our lives fragrant
* love sincerely
* Cling to good deeds
* Be joyful in hope
* Faithfulness in prayers
* Patience in pain
* Do not be proud
* Bless even those who curse you
* Do not take revenge
Therefore, let’s try developing the above points within us and the fragrance of our lives will definitely reach to god.
Horse runs after grass, dog runs after bone and humans runs after money.
So, whats the difference between humans and animals, if we have only financial goals in our lives. God has made us humans because we have those extra qualities in us which animals don’t have.
So, what do we mean by being human? Humanity comes with gratitude, consciousness and self realisation. Gratitude….first with god and then with people around us. Consciousness in our own thoughts and karmas and self realisation of our goals.
We all are experts in expectational love and emotional love. If someone loves us we can love them back, or may be if we are emotionally attached to some people like our family then too we love them regardless of any conditions.
There is one more form of love i.e intellectual love. Intellectual love is the most precious form. We will never get bored of it, as some people experience in their relationships. This type of love is not based on a person s looks or money, instead there s a deep connection between two minds. It’s very rare these days. But, yes there are people who fall in love intellectually and it’s a totally different experience. It happens when two people become really good friends, and share same thoughts and values without any ego.
So, lets find our intellectual love. It can happen with an object… may be a book, or a person or may be god. We need to choose ours.
God has given us brains to think and work. With this if we get lots of facilities, then we stop using our brains and become dependent on them. Like facility of contact list in our phone,makes us dependent and we don’t remember numbers even of our own family members. Internet is the biggest facilitator for all types of communication and knowledge. Even facilities like helpers at home and everywhere has made us lazy and dependent on them.
In one way these facilities or comforts are good. As it has made our lives easy and more comfortable. But on the other hand if we imagine our life living without such comforts, then we can imagine hell on earth. If all these comforts are taken away from us, then only hard working people like farmers would be able to survive.
Misusing such facilities can spoil us and our kids too, making us lazy, dependent, and insensitive. Kids especially should be kept away from such comforts and taught to learn and earn their own living. Never let them realise that money we are earning is for them. Teach them to get what they want by earning it and help them making a wonderful and self dependent person.
Facilities are good but only till it helps us in our development. These plush lives are never going to make us happy, but infact it’s our own enemy. It’s like more we run after external comfort, more uncomfortable we are from inside. Comfort is the enemy of progress, so come out of the cozy cocoon and experience the world of real happiness through hard work.