Feelings versus words

We use words to express while conversing with others. Where does these words originate from? Of course, the words pop out through the feelings we have for others. Our thoughts and feelings play an important role in the kind of words we are going to form.

While speaking we need to check the feelings before expressing any kind of word. When we say Hey! to someone, there are different ways to express it. Hey can be used with the feeling of love, hatred and surprise too… so in expressing, feelings are more important than words. Same word can have different meanings to it.

Analysing the emotions and it’s effect on others is very important. Words are the medium to express our feelings. Our intentions give fuel and power to any word. The energy which is transformed through the language creates drastic effects on people. Whether it’s business, job or home, right kind of energy can create wonders.

Therefore, both are important, as…. if we are not able to express ourself with right kind of words then the message passed will not be effective. And even if we use the right words but, the feelings are not appropriate, then too the conversation will be ineffective.

We all should try to create good thoughts and feelings, and put them into right kind of words. This will allow the conversation to be crystal clear.

“Meditation is a way to create good feelings and emotions which in turn will create beautiful words to express ourself.”

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Win the Battle of Jealousy

If a person is not happy to see other persons happiness or success then it’s called as J factor or jealousy. Why this jealousy occurs inside us? What makes us jealous? And how can we get rid of it?

Now a days people are more happy to see a person in problems. And are more depressed when they see a person being more successful or prosperous than them.

I think people who are emotionally weak suffer from this disease. Small things can make such people upset. They feel insufficient within themselves. So, how can we help them or ourself if we are suffering with the same problem.

Whatever is happening around us and with us, it’s all because of our own karmas. If someone is enjoying good time then it’s because of the good deeds they have done, and vice versa. So, never regret of what’s happening to yourself as it’s all your own accountability. Our balance sheet should be maintained properly by balancing our inputs and outputs.

If we understand this simple thing, that whatever good is happening with people is because of their own deeds then we will never be jealous of them, as they are reaping the fruits of their own tree.

Never doubt on yourself and your abilities. Be confident of yourself and never be afraid of what people will say. If we are confident of what we are doing is correct, and is for good of ourself and people around us, then there will be no fear or hesitation. Therefore, Conquer your fears and see the beautiful part life.

Jealousy will kill you from inside and weaken you day by day. It creates anger which is another symptom of a weak and fearful mind. As soon as we conquer this enemy of ours we take one more golden step towards the gate of happiness.

So, to win the battle of jealousy we need to first calm down and discover our strengths rather than the weaknesses.

Relationship with universe

We all try to make relations with people around us. Relations with our family members and with all those people we want to be. We need a whole lot of efforts to do this. Taking care of them, listen to there views and opinions, following instructions of each other and love them the way they are.

If we maintain the same kind of relationship with the universe then it can cause wonders in our life. It’s a kind of virtual relationship which can only be felt from within. It cannot be expressed but can only be realised consciously. This can be done through yoga and meditation. If we do yoga and meditation early morning then it has its own benefits.

We can see the change in ourself, once we start doing it. We feel like doing everyday at the same time as if someone is waiting for us to connect with. Yes there is this power to which we can connect with. It’s a kind of relation which once formed can never be broken as there is no expectations here. Just keep absorbing energy from the universe and stay blissful.

Universe is a place from where we have come and where we have to go back. Respect this pillar of life or you can be in trouble. People who maintain a strong relationship with it are the happiest people on earth.

Doing meditation can help in healing your self and stay connected to all living things.

Hope for the best

There are two things in our life which we should give utmost importance to. First is god, and then is hope. Hope is the pillar on which the progress of our life depends. It should never die. No matter how many times a person fails or falls down in life but he or she should never leave hope. It gives positivism and motivation. Whereas, if we leave hope then we fail in our life which leads to stress and depression. Therefore, make hope your best friend and you will never fail in life.

Hope is a power that can create wonders. After god it is the best power to believe in.

Now a days people don’t have faith in themselves. They are ready to go to temples, praying to god and worshiping him. But don’t have faith in self. We need to have faith in both, but first in self and then in god, then only things will work.

Have you ever noticed an ant going in a particular direction? No matter how many times we try to change its direction, it will never give up. And will follow the way it has decided. If an ant can be so strong and have such clarity, why not humans.

Therefore, we should be clear in our thoughts and hope for the best. If we have clarity then we will have faith in ourself and will never lose hope.

Real kind of happiness

Can we be happy with our own self. No, not really. Our happiness is based on lots of things around us. We always look for things or objects to experience joy. This kind of happiness is objective. Why is our happiness objective? We wait for things like gifts, amazon orders, new clothes, Jewellery, money, perfect wedding, beautiful house, great job,etc to be happy.

We have got addicted to such materialistic things for our joy, because it was a kind of happiness achieved in the past by our ancestors. The caveman use to get happy by hunting or finding food or getting things. But this kind of effect is always short term.

So, it’s a kind of dependency on things or people, and as soon as these things are gone, we start experiencing misery instead of joy.

Other kind of happiness is subjective which is not dependent on any kind object or people.. For example, when we help somebody without selfish motive and experience satisfaction or joy. Hence, to love or help someone without selfishness gives us real happiness. For this we need to experience oneness with everyone. If we realise that we are this universe our self ,and people around us, then such feeling of oneness will give us ultimate joy.

Be like a mother with everyone. How a mother sacrifices her food and give it to her hungry children. This giving of food doesn’t make her feel bad, but it makes her feel more satisfied and full of joy.

A person who has a high level of satisfaction with life is considered as happy. This is possible when we focus on the real meaning of our life and follow the path of self realisation. We are the pilots of our future happiness. So we need to take necessary steps for it.

So, how can we experience happiness?

* by bravely confronting the hardships of life.

* Being optimist.

* Having control on self.

* Developing personal strengths.

* Recognising your own value.

* And very important, choose an activity that feels like time stops when you are doing it, and do it frequently.

Therefore, free yourself from dependency on things and people, and create joy within by being happy with your own self. Someone has well said.. “ I am not what happened to me, but I am what I choose to become”.

Speak for yourself

We all are shy to speak about things happening in our lives which shouldn’t have happened or were not correct. Because of which we always have regrets in our minds. All such thoughts stay with us all our life time and because of this we are not able to live our lives comfortably. This affects a lot on our happiness index. Instead of going up, it stops at a point and we keep on thinking why we are not happy instead of all good things present around us. Like, people have money, fame, family, but are not that much happy as they should be.

Speaking for self needs immense courage. We need to be bold and never deny truth. As truth will anyways come out one day, if not straight may be indirectly punishing the concerned person for their karmas. Nobody can protect them at that time. So, if we learn this habit of speaking truth for self and for others too, it will bring a great change first in our self, then in our society and gradually in the world.

If we want to inculcate the virtue of truth in our children, then we need to set an example ourselves. This will only happen if we follow the right path. In todays world dishonesty has become the order. We all wear a mask and meet and greet each other with fake smiles. We gossip about our near and dear ones behind their back. Praising those people from whom we want favours, have become our habit.

So, instead of living a happy life after earning money and getting fame, we are living an artificial life losing the purity of our soul. Therefore, don’t hesitate in speaking the truth, as truth is the only thing which will give you real happiness.