Real celebration

Beautiful decoration, delicious food, music and people are needed to celebrate the occasions in our life. We run around here and there preparing for these functions. Making sure the presence of our friends and family.

Just give it a thought why are we doing it? Whats the need?

The need is to make the person happy for whom the celebration is done. Example, on a birthday party of a baby, people are busy in celebrations, giving importance to things like, their own dressing, attending people, see that everybody has eaten food… but often forget to feed the crying baby.

Same thing happens when we organise big Pooja’s and call lot of people, serve them with food and gifts, etc. but we forget the importance for what the Pooja is kept. The environment should be such that there is oneness with god, instead people are busy in gossiping, eating, etc. so, if we want to do all these things then, we better arrange for a party which is meant purely for this purpose.

Real celebration is showing love to those for whom we are doing it. Taking care of them and making them as much happy as we can. Each day of our life can be a celebration, but we should know how to do it. Just be happy from inside, and we won’t need anybody to celebrate our happiness.

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Be open like a book

Secrets are like a closed book which no one can know till the book is opened and read.. It may be a kind of thought, things, or an information. But why do we want to keep a secret. Are we afraid of anything…. yes because of certain kinds of fear we want to keep secrets. We are fearful, jealous, or sometimes just to protect someone or if it’s for good and or may be to save them from danger.

Whenever something like this happens there’s a burden inside our minds which we carry or we feel stressed. This can cause depression or stress to some people. It feels really uncomfortable to live with such thoughts. So, in a way keeping secrets can be really harmful. If we have a secret in our mind we would always like to escape the situations where such discussions are involved. If we want to keep our minds relaxed then we need to avoid it.

Secrets are being judgemental to situations. Who are we to judge people. Let’s not try to make decisions for others. It reduces our inner capabilities.

Rather it’s very healthy to be transparent with others. Off course , some secrets are fine which are for the good of others, but otherwise manipulation’s will cause only pain inside us.

So, let’s be open like a book. Let people know who we are. Let’s accept criticisms and improve ourselves, so that every time an improved version can be written.

Simplicity

Being simple doesn’t mean not enjoying life or staying away from all the pleasures. But it’s a kind of quality which demonstrates, the best form of life a person should live. Being modest and simple is a perfect combination to be.

Simplicity means staying away of all the pomp and show or fancies, and enjoy the real essence of life. Believe it, it’s an experience close to pure bliss. No worries about… what people will say or react, how you look, no extra efforts to please people around you, love and devotion in each task you do, unconditional love for others, etc.

So, developing the above qualities inside us can convert our personality into a beautiful human being. As in Gita when Arjun met Krishna at the battlefield, and Krishna was explaining Arjun how not to run away from his responsibilities and karmas, Arjun was not aware that Krishna is a god. Why, what’s the reason? Was Arjun mad? No, it’s because of the simplicity of Krishna that he was not able to recognise this supreme personality. That’s the way we should live. Enjoying all the pleasures but still being good at heart.

We should all be able to experience this beautiful part of life. Only a simple person has an extra vision for life as he or she is able to concentrate more on the truth of life.

Mind your own business!

When people have a boring life, without any mirch masala, then they do anything to poke around people’s private matters…just like it happens in our hindi sas-bahu serials.

Peeping in someone else’s job is something which looks very normal, but it is not. If a person wants to keep something secret and is not interested to share, it’s ok. Why do we need to peep inside and see what’s happening. Generally, people who doesn’t have much to do, are passing their time gossiping and bitching about others. Slowly it becomes their habit, and such people are always interested in knowing what’s happening in their neighbours house or strangers house, rather than inside their own lives.

People cannot digest the fact that others are happier then them. They have this habit of poking their nose in others business…which is not good. For example if a girl and a boy are going together, people cannot take it normally. They will make stories about them and create wrong notions.They can be good friends too, but it needs patience and faith to believe.

Now, why do people love digging information about people, and linking each other unnecessarily?

There may be reasons like, If a person is not satisfied of what he or she has in their own lives or maybe to get self satisfaction. But we don’t have an idea of what is happening inside us, as it’s giving birth to negative feelings such as jealousy, anger, show off and even ego.

So, How to get rid of this habit?

* Be attentive in your own self.

* Check what you are doing.

* What ever u think and do should be in favour of everyone else around us too.

* Don’t be selfish.

* Create good thoughts about others.

Let’s try to absorb all the above points and make our own life as well as others lives as beautiful as nature.

Doubts are good

Doubt means looking for something you don’t know about. It’s good. If we don’t have doubts we won’t be learning new things. Therefore, being doubtful is not dangerous. But suspicion is our enemy. It is not good. People with small mind are suspicious about everybody around them. Such people are clueless what to do in their lives. Being suspicious is a kind of disease. Which if not taken care of can be dangerous.

Generally, people take you for a ride to fulfill their selfish means. Which in one way is good for you. You learn your life lessons during these rides. Don’t get angry or suspicious with such people but say thank you to them as they are making you learn from your mistakes. We should never ask from anyone, for things we don’t deserve. It will give us only sufferings and nothing else. We will be in trouble, as we get things we are not ready for. It doesn’t suit our present life.

Lets be more matured, and then things will come automatically to us. Manipulating situations to get something you want can put you into great trouble. Let the flow of life take you wherever according to your abilities. Thank people who are there around you, helping you to make you a better person.

So, be doubtful but not suspicious. Doubts can take you to the heights of success. It’s the one of the important mantra s to gain knowledge. On the other hand, suspicion can be equally dangerous for our life.

Roses or thorns?

There are variety of people all around. And no one is similar. There s difference in their looks, behaviour, likes, dislikes, dressing, etc. The way of thinking also differs as people have different opinions on different things. Things which are good in our view, may be bad in someone else’s view. So how can we judge them?

No need to judge a person as everyone is correct in their own perspective. They have their own reasons to prove themselves right. One should know the difference between right and wrong. If we know the do’s and don’t s of life, but still ignore them.. then we are responsible for selecting the roses or thorns for ourselves.

Whatever situations are coming to our life are for our betterment. Like, the dirty clothes are washed in the washing machine by twisting and turning, and then they come out to be clean. Same way we should not be afraid of these twists and turns in our life’s as it’s for our own good. All the situations which are coming to our life, are to make us pure and blissful.

We meet lot of people in our day to day life. Each one has something good and something bad in them. Now, we need to see what we want to gain from them? Absorbing all the good things will add to our personality and help us in becoming a better human being. Learning bad things is very easy…needs no training, but gives results which can spoil our life, and there s no escape to it.

Therefore, accept whatever comes to your life happily. Always catch good things from people , ignore the negative qualities. As roses always have thorns with it. Nothing is perfect.

How old are you?

We have often heard, that with old age comes wisdom. But it’s not necessary, that all the elderly people take decisions wisely. Even after experiencing so much in life, and learning lessons they are still not able to accept the truth of life. So it’s not important that grey hair necessarily shows wisdom.

We as human beings need to understand, that life is to teach us lessons and we should accept them and correct our mistakes. If we are not taking these lessons seriously then life is simply a mess. Example, we often see even old aged people drinking, smoking and doing all those things which a person should learn from experience and never repeat it. They know the side effects but still don’t care and suffer throughout their old age.

We generally hear people saying that, we don’t have time for worship. This is all for old age. Not true. Bhakti can be done since childhood and it will reap you benefits in your old age. But what is Bhakti or true worship? This I have already discussed in my previous blog named, ‘Real worship’. Where worship is not lighting Diya s in front of god, but it’s our deeds or karmas which we are doing. Karma done with right emotions and thoughts is true Bhakti.

Elderly people should share good thoughts because of their sweet and bitter experiences. The feeling while sitting with them should be as pure as water. Then only we can say, experience counts.

So, the question is, how we want to be in our 60’s? It will all depend on our present. No financial plans, nothing will work. The only thing which will help is our karmas, which should be taken care of since childhood.

Be Energetic

Whatever we are doing whether it’s our job or business, playing with kids, helping people…in short fulfilling our responsibilities…don’t do it just for the sake of doing it. Full involvement and dedication by heart is very important. If we do tasks half heartedly than we may get results sometime but not as perfect as we have expected them to be.

When we work with our soul that is, not only physical involvement but mental too, and especially with our full conscious, then nobody can stop us from achieving what we want. So, the essence is to work, live and grow energetically.

We need to rewire our brain. Which is possible only by charging ourselves through meditation. Meditating daily helps us give good thoughts, connects us with that supreme soul and sets us free from the waste thoughts coming to our minds. It gives us a new insight into our lives. We become absolutely a different personality. People around us should feel happy when we are with them, and most important.. we should feel happy within ourself. If these two things our happening then we are going towards the correct path.

Meditation itself too needs a lot of dedication and patience. As time passes by, we see that we are changing into a person which we have dreamt of. A few more tips for being energetic are:

*Don’t waste energy in gossiping about others.

*Spend me time with yourself and sit in silence for at least 10 minutes.

*Live with enthusiasm and empathy.

*Eat, drink and sleep in a healthy manner.

*Forgive everyone for everything.

Therefore, recharging your energies is essential, so that everything around you goes well….our work, our home, and most important our life.

Real worship

Who has created this universe? God or that supreme energy is the manager of everything. So, what should be the correct way to worship him. He is not pleased by money donations or food which we make as Prasad. Real Bhakti is important, and we need to understand it.

The life which is given to us by the creator is a continuous process. We think it will end one day. But it’s never ending till our karmas are finished. And the cycle of birth and death continues. So there should be no fear of death. As our life will go on and on till we reach to the stage of Moksh.

We have separated god from us. We always look up in the sky or in the statues in search of god. But actually it’s in our own self. We have separated god from ourself that’s the reason god is away from us.

Have we ever seen oxygen which is life giving…But we know that it’s a form, and can give and take life from us. Same way god is an energy which cannot be seen and can only be felt. If we form a close relationship with god, then only our life can blossom like a flower.

We all cry when something bad happens with us. Even Arjuna cried on the battlefield but he cried not for himself, but for others. His grief was selfless. Thats real worship. Whatever is given by god should be accepted by us without any regrets. Then only we will blossom like a flower. Have faith in your karma. Whatever we have done will get back to us, so accept it.

Never ask or cry in front of god. That’s real worship. If someone scolds you or you are tensed, do you go crying in front of your kids. No, you always show a happy face in front of them. Treat god as you treat your children. Never ask for anything or cry.

What ever you do, do it selflessly. That’s real worship of god.

Breathe consciously

What are the things we give importance to in our life? All the other things except our breath. We have never thought of paying attention to our breath. We think it’s a normal process…big deal! ! Why it’s important, it’s something very natural to us. But the fact is, if we don’t breathe we are dead. It is the most essential aspect of our life. We can only be alive or dead because of it.

So this energy which is inside our body can create wonders if we pay attention to it. It has a beauty of its own. If we pay attention to our breath through yoga, It can take us to a long way.

We all want a bigger piece of cake and keep experiencing something extraordinary in life. So for this we need to expand our perspective of life. If we master the art of breathing and go beyond the physical existence of life then all our sufferings will come to an end.

The speed at which we breathe tells us about the length of our life. If we breathe fast our life will be shortened. Slowing down of breath has a soothing effect on our emotional state too.

Breathing has a sound of its own. According to upanishads, the sound of breath is ‘so’ during inhalation and ‘ham’ during exhalation. So, concentrate on this sound and create wonders within you.

According to WHO by 2020 depression and anxiety will be the number one disability in a person. In this digital world where everyone is on their phones…we need to divert our mind and pay attention to something fruitful. Breath is like the oil in a car. For smooth functionality we need to check the oil, otherwise the engine will get seized.

Therefore, when we pay attention to our breath, we feel we are different from our body and mind. We feel as if we are an energy which has no relation with this body, except the role of a driver. As soon as we start experiencing this separation, all our sufferings and anxieties come to an end.