Can we be happy with our own self. No, not really. Our happiness is based on lots of things around us. We always look for things or objects to experience joy. This kind of happiness is objective. Why is our happiness objective? We wait for things like gifts, amazon orders, new clothes, Jewellery, money, perfect wedding, beautiful house, great job,etc to be happy.
We have got addicted to such materialistic things for our joy, because it was a kind of happiness achieved in the past by our ancestors. The caveman use to get happy by hunting or finding food or getting things. But this kind of effect is always short term.
So, it’s a kind of dependency on things or people, and as soon as these things are gone, we start experiencing misery instead of joy.
Other kind of happiness is subjective which is not dependent on any kind object or people.. For example, when we help somebody without selfish motive and experience satisfaction or joy. Hence, to love or help someone without selfishness gives us real happiness. For this we need to experience oneness with everyone. If we realise that we are this universe our self ,and people around us, then such feeling of oneness will give us ultimate joy.
Be like a mother with everyone. How a mother sacrifices her food and give it to her hungry children. This giving of food doesn’t make her feel bad, but it makes her feel more satisfied and full of joy.
A person who has a high level of satisfaction with life is considered as happy. This is possible when we focus on the real meaning of our life and follow the path of self realisation. We are the pilots of our future happiness. So we need to take necessary steps for it.
So, how can we experience happiness?
* by bravely confronting the hardships of life.
* Being optimist.
* Having control on self.
* Developing personal strengths.
* Recognising your own value.
* And very important, choose an activity that feels like time stops when you are doing it, and do it frequently.
Therefore, free yourself from dependency on things and people, and create joy within by being happy with your own self. Someone has well said.. “ I am not what happened to me, but I am what I choose to become”.